PART 1 of 5: Shifting Limited Beliefs

(Session Time: Approx: 30 mins)

 
 

Task:

These hypothetical situations that can alter your mood and cause anxiety from situations as an entrepreneur. I’ve noted three different situations but with different outcomes. Read A, fill in the blanks to get the result.

 

1.   A. One of your clients calls up to say they want to cancel their membership.

      B. You think _______________________

      C. You get angry and fight with them over the phone.

 

2.   A. One of your clients calls up to say they want to cancel their membership.

      B. You think _______________________

      C. You don’t feel bad about it, and go about your day.

 

3.   A. One of your employees causes a tantrum in the office.

      B. You think, “was there something I’ve done?”

      C. You feel (or do) _____________________.

 

4.   A. One of your employees causes a tantrum in the office.

      B. You think, “they were in a bad mood.”

      C. You feel (or do) _____________________.

 

5.   A. One of your clients abuses you over the phone or in person.

      B. You think, “this is the worst and I can’t cope with this right now.”

      C. You feel (or do) _____________________.

 

6.   A. One of your clients abuses you over the phone or in person.

      B. You think, “I see where they’re coming from and let’s focus on solving the issue instead of turning it into a volcano.”

      C. You feel (or do) _____________________.

 

Download the worksheet here and for the bonus task of this lesson.

 

I learned this method from Martin Seligman’s book, Learned Optimism. He notes that when we encounter adversity, we react by thinking about. Our thoughts rapidly congreal into beliefs. These beliefs may become do habitual we don’t even realise we have them unless we stop and focus on them. And they don’t just sit there idly; they have consequences. The beliefs are the direct causes of what we feel and what we do next. They can spell the difference between dejection and giving up, on the one one hand, and well-being and construction action on the other.

The situations above are ones we can deal with everyday. It’s only a matter of changing the paradigm so it removes the anxiety from taking over. Here, optimism is key. Even with all the losses, I’m appreciative because I’ll always know they’re just minor setbacks. This validates that it didn’t work so I know for next time that it wasn’t as effective. Feedback from an experiment that didn’t go as planned gives you more knowledge, as opposed to a failure that seems to take control of you.

 

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